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Alene N.'s avatar

Nancy,

I’ve thought a lot about my purpose in the past several years as I’ve made major changes in my everyday life routines and lived with a lot of cancer and non-cancer grief. I figure I am lucky to be here and in relatively good health so I can do my part to make other peoples lives better in whatever way I can, sometimes it’s as simple as eye contact or a smile. Just making that human connection, acknowledging the humanity and existence of other people. (I see you. I wish you well. You are safe around me.)You never know if what you do is the best thing that happened to them all day. I know when I was depressed so many times I felt like I just wanted people to be nice to me. That’s what I feel my purpose is now. I know it’s different than it was in the past, and it might not always be the same in the future, but that’s where I am right now.

Thanks for always making me think. That’s one of things I love about reading your words.

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Beth L. Gainer's avatar

Hi Nancy,

First of all, your photos in this post are stunning.

I really enjoyed reading this post. "What's my purpose?" That's a tough question. I know that society sometimes believes my purpose is to be a shining example of a positive breast cancer survivor. But I can tell society that it is wrong. My purpose has nothing to do with breast cancer.

I don't fully know my purpose. I know some purposes (or maybe they are goals?): to raise an emotionally and physically healthy daughter, and to touch others through my writing and art.

I think a purpose that I've only begun to be aware of in the past few years or so is a biggie: self-care. I know it's become a buzzword lately, but the truth is, taking care of oneself (which not everyone does) is so paramount. If one does not take care of oneself, how can he/she take care of others? I've been pretty candid about my self-care practices: exercise, reading, writing, creating art, and having psychological care to help me cope with the daily travails of life. One practice I must get better at, however, is ensuring I get the proper sleep. I don't get enough, so that's the next thing I'm going to tackle, and I'm sure there will be a blog post about that on my self-care blog.

Thanks for this post, Nancy. It's very insightful.

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